Parenting Jordan

I have three beautiful, incredible adult children.  My ex-husband and I could never have children, so we decided to pursue adoption, and God answered our prayers in such miraculous ways. My children today are ages 31, 28, and 28. My two younger children are only 5 months apart, and all of my children are adopted from three different biological families

They each have a story of how we came to be their parents but the one I want to share today is about my son Jordan.

Jordan came to us through friends who were foster parents. They were asked to be interim foster parents for a short period of time, and during that time, they had planned a trip that wouldn’t allow them to take Jordan with them.  He was about ten months old at the time. We agreed to care for Jordan while they took their trip. This was a life changing event.

There are so many things that happened over the course of a few months and without going into every detail Jordan became our adopted son. We went to becoming a childless couple to the parents of a 4 year old daughter, 15 month old son and 10 month old daughter.

Jordan came with many disadvantages to his start in life. He was born to a drug addicted mother and a father who was in jail. He was born premature at 25 weeks, weighing only 1 pound! He is the only survivor of a set of twins. Because of his prematurity and lack of care after leaving the hospital his eyes were damaged and he was extremely developmentally delayed. 

Jordan did not know how to react to being held, cuddled, and loved on. He would stiffen up and cry when we held him. He would begin to cry uncontrollably after finishing a bottle as if it were his last. He did not know how to crawl at 15 months old. He had developed a pattern of self stimulation by ramming his head into the end of his crib. It all was so overwhelming, to say the least.

To keep this post shorter, I will say that we have had so much support through agencies, the school system, and wonderful individuals who stepped up and helped us through Jordan’s growing up. I am so proud of the awesome young man he has become despite his developmental delays, low vision, autism and mild cerebral palsy. He is admired by so many in the community and has thrived!

He is my hero.

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